2 hours agoAuthor: Shashank Shukla
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When We are in a relationship with someone who has previously been in a relationship with someone else. In such a situation, sometimes the person remains emotionally attached to his old partner. Now even if he is in a relationship with us. This may affect our relationship. This can also harm our mental health.
Being the ‘second potato’ in a relationship is an experience that can break any person mentally and emotionally. This is a situation when your partner sees you just as an option rather than making you a priority.
Today relationship I know that-
- What is a ‘second potato’?
- What are its disadvantages?
- How to avoid becoming a ‘second potato’?
What is a ‘second potato’ in a relationship? A ‘second potato’ in a relationship is a situation when you are not a priority for your partner, but an option. This means that your partner is still mentally or emotionally attached to his or her old relationship or someone else. He is not able to accept you completely. This situation causes dissatisfaction in the relationship, lack of trust and loss of self-respect.
What are the disadvantages of becoming a ‘second potato’?
Becoming a ‘second potato’ affects a person’s mental peace. According to the study ‘Motivational Underpinnings of Romantic Partner Perceptions: Psychological and Physiological Evidence’, published in the ‘Journal of Personal and Social Relations’, people who compare a former boyfriend or girlfriend to their current partner also view their former partner more highly. On a positive note, their relationship is strained and they are not satisfied with each other.
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feeling of insecurity
Feeling like a ‘second potato’ can leave a person feeling insecure about their worth in the relationship. When someone feels that their partner is more attracted to their ex or does not make them a priority, it can lead to low self-esteem and trust.
stress and mental pressure
If your partner still thinks about his or her ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, it can cause tension in your relationship. This stress can take a toll on your mental health and hurt your self-esteem.
lack of trust
The biggest disadvantage of becoming a substitute for someone is that the trust between the two of you weakens. Due to constant tension and emptiness, such a relationship does not last long.
feeling of doubt
A person feeling like a ‘second potato’ may become suspicious of their partner. Especially when she feels that her partner is giving priority to someone else. When partners maintain emotional attachments to former relationships, it can create mistrust, tension, and distance in the relationship. This may lead to lack of communication between the two.
loyalty
When a person feels undervalued in a relationship, his or her loyalty may decrease. He may seek affection or attention from someone else, which can create a rift in the relationship and break trust.
fear of losing one’s identity
When you know that you are someone’s ‘second choice’, you start losing your personal identity and your self-respect. This condition can have a negative impact on your mental health.
How to avoid becoming a ‘second potato’?
To avoid becoming someone’s ‘second potato’, accept yourself and your partner completely. Communicate openly with your partner. Focus on increasing your emotional connection with your partner. Also give yourself priority and develop self-respect. Let us understand through graphic.
make yourself a priority
First of all, understand that you are not a substitute for anyone. Keep your self-respect and happiness above all else.
bring clarity to the relationship
Talk openly to your partner. If you feel that they are still emotionally attached to their ex, talk about it.
evaluate the relationship
Try to understand where your relationship is headed. If you remain a ‘second potato’ for a long time, it will not be good for your mental and emotional health.
Keep distance from your partner
If you feel that your partner is not giving you priority, things are not changing despite your continuous efforts, then it is better to decide that you distance yourself from this relationship. With this you can take a thoughtful decision about your future.
