13 hours agoAuthor: Shaili Acharya
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There is a unique moment for every parent when they realize that their child has grown up. This can also be a mixed feeling. Parents feel good that their child is now standing on his own feet. But when it comes to their own decisions, the views of parents and their young children often don’t match.
Today’s youth prefer to take their own decisions. Sometimes parents agree to this, but most of the time they don’t. Something similar was seen recently, when Bollywood actress Sonakshi Sinha’s father Shatrughan Sinha gave his reaction on her marriage.
Sonakshi is going to tie the knot with her boyfriend Zaheer Khan soon. Regarding this, father Shatrughan Sinha earlier said that he does not know anything about this, where are today’s children asking anything? But later he said, “I have only one daughter, if she gets married my blessings will be with her.”
Many kinds of reactions are coming from people regarding this. Some people believe that this is Sonakshi’s decision and her personal life. In such a situation, parents should support their children in their decisions. At the same time, some parents believe that children should consult their parents once before taking such a big decision.
According to the ResearchGate study, 2 pediatric departments in Belgium and the Netherlands conducted a survey on parents. The survey revealed that overall, 58.6%-70.4% of parents let their young children make their own decisions.
So, today ‘relationship’ In the column we will talk about what role parents should have in children’s decisions. We will also learn about the expectations of growing children from their parents.
Parents should give children personal space
Being a parent is not easy. Parents bear the full responsibility of the child from infancy to adulthood. But this is usually less challenging when children are younger. But when children grow up, there is a difference in thinking between parents and their parents. Their thoughts, way of thinking, way of making decisions, everything seems different.
- Children like to make their own decisions when they grow up.
- Sometimes this may not be what the parents want. This can lead to arguments, quarrels and even conflicts.
- In such a situation it becomes difficult for parents to cope.
- According to a study conducted at the Pew Research Center, 41% of parents rate their relationship with their young children as excellent, 36% say it is good, and 15% say it is okay.
- Only 8% say it is fair or bad.
- Mothers have better relationships with their young children than fathers.
What role parents should play in the lives of their young children, find out in the graphic below-
Understand your children’s condition
Parents become more worried when children grow up and go to study abroad. Often the parents of the youth living outside call or message them daily. To know where they are and if they are okay.
According to a Pew Research Center study, about 31% of people say they text their children every day. 42% say they message them twice a week.
Do not compare children with other children
Many times parents compare their children with other children. Like seeing how good their son or daughter is, they listen to their parents. Doing so can make children withdraw from you and become irritable. If you must compare, compare with them. Like how much positive change he has been able to bring about within himself from yesterday to today.
What will people say…
‘What will people say if you marry her? What will people say if you do this?’ Many youngsters have heard their parents say these phrases at one point or another. For some parents, the fear of society becomes so great that they reluctantly force it on their young children. Parents should not do this at all.
Don’t emotionally blackmail children
Parents should not emotionally blackmail their older children. As many parents say, we did so much for you and what did you do? We saved every single penny and educated you but you could not do anything for us.’ By saying such words you are hurting children emotionally. In such a condition they cannot move forward and the breath is suffocated from within. So avoid doing this.
Youngsters have a lot of expectations from their parents
Being a parent can be hard. However, it also gets a little easier with time. But this work does not end even after the children grow up. You may no longer face the challenges of parenting every day, but maintaining new relationships with an adult child can be difficult.
The expectations that parents have from their children at this growing age. Youngsters also have similar expectations from their parents. They want parents to understand their thoughts and accept their decisions.
Check out the graphic below to see what young people expect from their parents:
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